Foreplay 101: All You Need to Know about Foreplay

By Sirak At Kiiroo

12 février 2019

FOREPLAY IDEAS THEY DIDN’T TEACH YOU IN SEX-ED

Waiting is the worst. Whether it’s waiting for the new Game of Thrones season or waiting to get some freakin’ sex already. No one likes waiting for it. Foreplay is often skipped.

Such a shame! Good foreplay can make all the difference between ‘OK’ sex and ‘GREAT’ sex. In dire need of some good foreplay ideas? Help is here!

FOREPLAY IDEAS: WHY BOTHER?

You can feel your partner’s body press up against yours. You want to have sex and you want it NOW! It’s tempting to skip the hors d’oeuvres and dig right into the main course. Even though there’s nothing wrong with a good quickie every now and then.

The climax will be so much sweeter when you allow yourself to take your time. Especially for women. It’s incredibly important to get your body warmed up and in the right mood for sex. After a long session of slowly teasing and caressing.

Things will get all the more intense once it’s time for the ‘Real Thing’ but it’s not just the ladies that will benefit from foreplay. The longer the foreplay, the stronger the orgasm will be for men as well.

WHERE TO GET STARTED

One of the reasons people shy away from foreplay is because they often don’t know how to go about it. But it’s important to remember that there’s really no right or wrong here. You can try whatever you like. Erotic massages with massage oils, lighting candles, dirty talk, sex toys, oral sex, or other sexual activities.

As long as you listen to your own needs and those of your partner. You’ll be set to have the best sex of your life! Need a little help getting started? Try some of these foreplay ideas.

STEP 1: SETTING THE MOOD

The ambiance in the room can make or break a good foreplay sesh. Before any of the actual sexual activities begin, it’s important to create the right mood. We’re talking dimmed lights, a fine red wine, candles, Marvin Gaye coming out of the speakers: the works!

Even if the object of your affection is your long-term partner, really try your best to seduce them. This makes your partner feel desirable, special and wanted. Who doesn’t like that?

STEP 2: DIRTY TALK

Contrary to what most men believe, the mind is actually our biggest erogenous zone. There’s nothing that stimulates our dirty mind like a little dirty talk before you even touch, you can start off by gazing deeply into your lover's eyes. Then whisper intimately into each other’s ears and compliment your partner on how sexy they look. Tell them what you would like to do to them or, what you’d like them to do to you.

STEP 3: DISCOVER ALL THEIR EROGENOUS ZONES

We often aim our affection at the most obvious body parts. For the guys out there, it might be worth mentioning; women consist of more than just vaginas and boobs!

Take your time to discover all her erogenous zones. To make your lady ache with desire, pay attention to all parts of her body, not just the obvious ones. Kiss her gently behind her ears, on her neck, on her back, shoulders, stomach, legs, and feet. The longer you beat around the bush, the more desperately she will want you to go further.

Of course the same is true for men, guys don’t just have the one erogenous zone. Make your man go crazy by paying attention to his thumb (an unexpected male erogenous zone!). During foreplay, gaze seductively into his eyes, kiss his hands and slowly start sucking on his thumb. In his mind this will evoke thoughts of you sucking on something else, giving away a taste of what’s to come.

STEP 4: ORAL SEX

Oral sex can be a goal in itself and a great way to achieve climax and it can also be incorporated into the foreplay session. The important thing is to take it slow. You want to stretch out the orgasm for as long as you can.

During foreplay, oral sex is meant to build up the sexual tension. So make sure to tease a lot and take your sweet time while giving your lover head. If you’re good, they may even return the favor.

STEP 5: BRING IN THE SEX TOYS

If you’ve never tried incorporating sex toys into your lovemaking or foreplay, now’s the time! Everybody’s different so it will take some experimenting to find out which type of sex toys will do the trick for you.

Sex toys can help spice things up and bring variation back into your foreplay routine. Ladies can try our OhMiBod Fuse for example. Pleasure yourself while your partner watches, or let him take the lead by controlling the vibrations through the FeelConnect app on his phone. Guys, try the Onyx+ And let her control the sensational penetrations with her device. The choice is yours!

WHAT’S NEXT?

After you’ve carefully taken your time to both get completely in the mood and the tension is through the roof. The time has (finally) come to dissolve into each other.

Like literally. Once all this build-up tension releases, don’t be surprised to see some fireworks.

More Foreplay Ideas

Are you in the mood? Want things to get started? Here we got 101 tips for you and your partner. Literally. If this don’t get you going, we don’t even know.

Start foreplay with yourself. Take some time to masturbate and understand what makes you tick.
Put in the time. If you want to have a good foreplay experience, you need to invest the time. Don’t rush through it; enjoy it.
Find out their deepest fantasies. Get talking and discover what your partner’s fantasies are.
Go offline. Turn off your phone and focus solely on your partner.
Schedule a date night. We’re all busy, schedule a date night with your partner no matter what!
Get in the zone. Get yourself ready for sex. Take a nap, go for a run, focus on destressing yourself for the big event.
Avoid watching porn alone. Porn isn’t real, but your sexual experiences are. Take a break from porn and refocus your attention on real people.
Gift your partner a sex toy. Surprise them with a new toy (or an old one).
Get sexting. Sext your partner(s) a sexy photo of you, or tell them what you want to do to them when they get home.
Take a time out from masturbating. If you masturbate solo, take a break from it for a couple of days. Build up the sexual tension before having sex again.
Dress to impress. Dress to feel sexy; confidence is the key to great sex.
Set the mood. If you want to arouse your partner, you need to set the mood. Dim the light, put some sensual music on; set the mood for the event.
Relive your first date. Some of us have had pretty wild first dates, so why not relive it with your partner?
Undress them with your eyes. Undress your partner with your eyes - make sure they see.
Start foreplay outside of the bedroom. You can start foreplay hours before you even step one foot into your house.
Make room for oral sex. If you are familiar with oral sex, give a mindblowing blowjob or salad toss, expect a strong foreplay orgasm from your partner.
Show off the Public Display of Affection (PDA). People complain about PDA all the time; but when you’re doing it, it doesn’t count.
Tease with lube. Anal foreplay is always fun with lube.
Nipple play. Get naughty with nipple foreplay.
Ladies, ask for what you want. Take control.
Give a foot massage. Make it a sensual massage and a passionate one.
Discover your partner’s erogenous zones. Find out other body parts that arouse your partner. Try breast foreplay for starters.
Make it last all day long. For a strong foreplay orgasm, keep the foreplay going all day long.
Have fun with dry humping. An oldie, but a goodie.
Try out a strap-on. Switch up the roles for some exciting anal foreplay.
Go outside your comfort zone. Give anal foreplay a try if you already haven’t.
Give/get a body massage. With the right massage oil, who wouldn’t get turned on?
Have a pillow fight. A pillow fight works for one-on-one or group sex.
Talk dirty. What do you want them to do to you? Tell them.
Heat it up with interactive sex toys. Achieve a foreplay orgasm by incorporating interactive sex toys for couples
Play out a fantasy. Has your partner always wanted to play a naughty male/female nurse?
Get them yearning. If they want you, they’ll yearn for you
Moan and breathe sensually. Heat things up with your breath.
Cook a sexy meal. And eat it naked.
Follow the honey or whipped cream. With honey or whipped cream, make a trail on your body of where you want your partner to kiss.
Watch something naughty on tv together. Some foreplay techniques are really this simple.
Give a head massage. Stimulate each other with a head massage.
Compliment each other’s bodies. Arouse each other with compliments.
Make a “sexytime” playlist. Get the mood started with the right tunes.
Play truth or dare. Whether it’s one-on-one sex or group sex, play this game to fulfill wild fantasies and get things started.
Use a feather. All you need is a feather and a blindfold. The feather can be a part of nipple foreplay and breast foreplay.
Don’t kiss each other. It’ll be the biggest tease for both of you.
Play the mystery toy game. In a bag, place all your sex toys. With either you or your partner blindfolded, reach in, and grab one. That’s the toy you’ll be using tonight.
Grind against them in public. Be a little naughty in public. Experiment with breast and nipple foreplay by rubbing them against your partner’s body.
Run your hand through their hair. Show off your sensuality.
Bite your lip. Let them know you want them.
Play the stranger game. Choose a character and play them during group sex.
Buy lingerie together. Build the tension and excitement.
Role-play a fantasy. Who have you always wanted to be? Be them during one-on-one or group sex.
Try a new sex position. Have fun with new foreplay positions.
Incorporate light bondage. Be tied or tie up your partner(s).
Visit a strip club together. Get aroused while watching together.
Bring out the adult board games. There are tons of adult board games out there like I.O.U. The Game of Hidden Pleasures, Kaamastra You and Me, That’s What She Said, Never Have I Ever, Quick and Dirty or Sexopoly.
Have a bath together. Try sensually touching each other while getting bubbly in the tub together.
Play blind man’s bluff. Blindfold your partner and lead them to your bed. Tease them, make them beg.
Bring in a third person. Why not add a third or fourth person to your foreplay positions?
Avoid the clit in the beginning. Tease your partner by avoiding the clit.
Wrestle each other in bed. One of the best foreplay positions.
Touch yourself first. Show your partner(s) what you like.
Play footsie. A naughty foot on-foot action, under the table in public, to
heat things up.
Take charge. Take control of your (and their) foreplay orgasm.
Perform a lap dance or striptease. Use your body’s movements and give them a show.
Tell your partner(s) why they’re sexy to you. Everyone likes being complimented.
Try foreplay apart. Keep the connection with the Kiiroo Couples set.
Send each other sexy photos. Foreplay techniques aren’t always physical.
Have your partner shave your pubic hair. Get out shaving utensils and let your partner shave your pubic area.
Play a game of strip poker. Build the foreplay orgasm over a game of strip poker.
Experiment with temperature. Use an ice cube and a mug of hot water, switching between the two while giving a blowjob or eating your partner out.
X-marks the spot. Think of the place you want your partner to touch. Now, what they need to do is find where that place is.
Head to a sex club. Experiment with your partner and others at a sex club.
Play make-believe. If you have sexy costumes from Halloween, you don’t need to wait until next October.
Gaze into each other’s eyes. This sounds a little sappy, but they knew what they were doing.
Mime each other’s moves. Try out new foreplay positions while doing it.
Massage those buns. Start anal foreplay off with a sensual bum massage - make sure you use warming oil.
Go on an old school date. Sometimes all you need to do is go on a classic date.
Playing naughty. With a wide hairbrush, hands, or riding crop, play naughty. Whatever they did wrong today, they get a spanking.
Give them a little nibble. Nipple foreplay really turns on the mood.
Get your dance on. Whether you’re at home or the club, get dirty while dancing to some top 40 hits.
Leave a trail behind you. Let them find the treasure at the end of the trail.
Cuddle naked. One of the best foreplay positions.
Get frisky in your car. Public foreplay acts are always thrilling.
Give the bootyhole some attention. Don’t forget anal foreplay - every booty needs TLC.
Explore your feet. Not all foreplay positions are so obvious.
Hide-and-seek. Leave a note by the door that says you’re hiding somewhere naked. Once they find you, they will know what their reward is.
Shop for sex toys together. Have fun by discovering new toys.
Surprise them. They don’t need to be sexual (they can be), whether you cooked them dinner or answered the door naked, you choose.
Practice yoga together. Improve your foreplay orgasm with the downward dog.
Get tipsy with a game of strip pong. If you want to get wild, try this game out. Every time your partner lands a ping pong into your cup, you need to take off an article of clothing.
Be the deliverer of pleasure. If you’re a woman, put on a strap-on and be the deliverer of pleasure. If you’re a man, switch roles and be dominant for a change. Expect a strong foreplay orgasm.
Have a couples game night. Find a couple that’s down for a little bit of naughty fun.
Relive your favorite sexual experiences with your partner. You had some wild sex, why not go down memory road?
Do an activity you both haven’t done before. If you two haven’t tried painting class or gone go-karting together, do it.
Eat booty. Anal foreplay has overcome its taboo and is now extremely popular. Get down on your knees and eat that booty!
Play stripped-down twister. This is a great game for group sex or couples. It’s a classic twister game, but with a twist - you’ll need to strip.
Have fun with flavored condoms. Have fun with sex and try different flavors for vaginal and anal foreplay.
Masturbate in front of each other. Lay in front of each other while touching yourself. Let’s see how long your mutual masturbation session will last!
Never Have I Ever. Come up with some clean (and dirty) questions to ask your partner(s). It’s a great way to find out other people’s kinks and is a great game for sex groups.
Play time out. Put the timer on a start having foreplay, when the timer goes off; you have to try to stop.
Don’t be scared to use oil. Roll you and your partner(s) in oil...see where it takes you.
Try out different oral sex positions. Go outside of the regular routine and try different oral sex foreplay positions.
Take your time. If you’re having a good time, you won’t even notice the time. Take your time and be present.

You now have 101 foreplay tips to use the next time you’re about to get down and dirty. What are you waiting for?

WRITTEN BY

Natasha Ivanovic

Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.

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