Masturbation is healthy. It gives us a space to freely explore our needs and enjoy our body without feeling remorseful, guilty, or under pressure to please anyone else.
But what if, sometimes, we want to be told what to do sexually, or discover new ways to pleasure ourselves? Enter JOI: an extremely erotic way to turn solo time into what feels like a shared experience.
Here, we give the full lowdown on JOI - what it is, what forms it takes, and the different types. If you want to try masturbating to JOI porn yourself, we'll cover everything you need to know to find what sparks joy. The pleasure is all yours.
What is JOI?
Thousands of people seek out JOI to accompany their ménage a moi every day. It’s a hugely popular adult genre and fetish - but exactly what is JOI porn?
Put simply, JOI stands for ‘jerk off instructions’. Typically, it involves an adult star giving dirty, detailed instructions on how to masturbate. It can take the form of jerk off instruction audio, and even JOI games, but you’ll primarily find the tell-me-what-to-do porn in a video format.
What is a JOI video?
Jerk off instruction videos are the most common form of JOI, and they’re precisely what they sound like: an erotic performer talking into a POV camera, instructing (or encouraging) you to give yourself the best climax of your life.
While some jerk off instruction videos are vague instructions (something like “start stroking yourself”), others can be more thorough, like “grasp as firmly as you can and stroke each time I moan… I want you to come when I count down from 10, nine, eight…”. Most jerk off instruction videos will mix in a lot of teasing and the performer may replicate the instructions themselves with a dildo or other sex toy.
How can JOI help you masturbate?
Many people get the jitters about getting jiggy with themselves due to archaic stigmas surrounding self-pleasure. This can leave a gap in knowledge when it comes to masturbation, namely how to do it in a way that turns us on.
There are a number of ways to explore your body, including playing with different rhythms, erogenous zones, and pleasure products. But for those who still aren’t sure what to do, jerk off instruction content can be a fun way to try new masturbation techniques - or simply get started.
Why do people find JOI so orgasmically hot?
There are a lot of reasons pleasure-seekers find JOI porn so irresistible. Firstly, many people simply love to be bossed around in the bedroom - this isn’t anything new. Following jerk off instructions is also a brilliant way to practice orgasm control and edging, which can improve stamina and result in even more intense climaxes.
If you enjoy power play, particularly the submissive type, having an instructor tell you what to do and controlling your pleasure can be the ultimate turn-on. For this reason, JOI is an easily accessible, low-risk way to experiment with BDSM roles - femdom JOI (femdom being short for female dominance) is a growingly popular niche within the JOI world. If you’re sexually dominant, JOI can also be a great way to brush up on your dirty talk.
What are the different types of JOI?
Just as there are different types of porn, there’s JOI porn to suit a wide range of sexual preferences and fantasies. Just browse the /r/JOI community on Reddit and you’ll discover all kinds of ultra-specific JOI requests.
The most common jerk off instruction porn is female-to-male JOI, where a female instructs a male to jerk off. As previously mentioned, femdom JOI (being told what to do by a dominating female) is a popular niche.
MILF JOI is well-loved by masturbators - being told what to do by an experienced older woman (hello, Reagan Foxx) can offer sexual relief like no other. Some jerk off instruction videos go to town on this roleplay, for example, a stepmother punishing her naughty stepson.
Sometimes filed under the term ‘jilling’, female-to-female JOI porn involves one female teaching another how she makes herself orgasm, sometimes with hands, and other times with sex toys.
Likewise, male-to-male JOI instructors often demonstrate the ‘how-to’ with the help of sex toys such as strokers or butt plugs. There is also plenty of male-to-female JOI content on the internet - with guidance and encouragement from a male instructor designed for a female viewer.
To add some play to your masturbation, try a jerk off instruction game. These can gamify the instructions given - for example, green light for ‘go’ and red light for ‘stop’. Or, if you love the tingles of ASMR (autonomous sensory meridian response) content, you’ll love the quiet delights of ASMR JOI.
Think whispered fantasies and hot sighs - gentle instructions which feel even more intimate in the close proximity of professional binaural mics.
If you venture into the world of jerk off instruction videos, you’ll find no shortage of content from award-winning adult stars, including our own FeelStars Rae Lil Black and Rachel Starr.
In fact, you’ll be hard pushed to find an erotic performer who doesn’t do JOI. Explore the full FeelStar collection to get a real-feel experience with your favorite star - and let them tell you how they like it.
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