How to have safe sex on different locations
Everybody got there one bucket list of places where they want to have sex.
But there are some things you need to keep in mind, and we’re here to help you out. Here are some helpful tips for having sex on different locations.
ON THE BEACH
MAKE SURE YOU COME PREPARED
Oh yes, this is something you need to focus on. Spontaneity is fun, but when it comes to beach sex, it can get a little tricky. Bring towels, sunscreen (if it's day sex), lube, and easy-to-where clothing like a sundress or baggy shorts with you.
Being prepared will save you from getting sand in your genitals or getting caught giving/receiving oral sex. It's really about the small things that can save the day.
DOUBLE CHECK IF IT’S LEGAL
The odds are having sex on the beach isn't legal where you are, but double-check. Make sure you know the laws surrounding public sex. In some places, if you're caught, the punishment is minimal, and in other states, you can end up with a criminal record. You don't want to get on the wrong side of the law.
FIND THE RIGHT BEACH
Yeah, having sex on a popular public beach isn't the best idea whether it's day or night—you will get caught. Ideally, the more isolated your beach sex spot is, the better. So focus on finding a private beach for just the two of you. Of course, you can try it during the day, but we recommend doing it at night.
GET INTO SAND-SAFE POSITIONS
Sadly, not all positions are made for beach sex; that's just the way it is. If you don't want sand in unwanted places, choose positions that keep your genitals as far away from the sand as possible.
These positions include doggy style, spooning positive, and cowgirl. Avoid the missionary position, but if it's a position you really want to do, make sure you bring a sand proof blanket with you.
INVEST IN FOREPLAY
Yes, sex on a private and secluded beach is fun, but you know what's even better? Foreplay on a beach! Doesn't it have a good ring to it? But it's amazing. Before having penetrative sex, spend the time exploring each other's bodies with a sand proof blanket or some towels. Oral sex under a blanket or towel can be a lot of fun.
SAND IN YOUR GENITALS MEANS STOP HAVING SEX
This is an important one. If you go prepared, this really shouldn't happen. You have everything you need to avoid this situation. But, that said, it can still happen no matter how prepared you are.
If you happen to get sand in your genitals, don't continue what you're doing. Stop immediately and rinse yourself off in the water. You do not want to get an infection from having sex on the beach—that's not what's supposed to happen!
KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR SURROUNDINGS
Focus on choosing the right beach sex spot for you and your partner. After finding a secluded and private beach, make sure the area itself is clean and leveled. Yeah, sex on a slope is not fun. Also, keep a healthy distance from the shoreline; you don’t want the tide to take you out.
TRY SEX ON THE BEACH WITH A TWIST
Maybe you want to try having sex on the beach, but you're a little nervous—don't worry, it's normal to be nervous when having sex in public. If you want to dip your toes into beach sex, why not try using interactive couples' toys?
The Kiiroo's Onyx+ Pearl2 Couples Set lets you masturbate in front of each other. So, you'll be a little naughty without having to worry about getting caught in doggy style. Just make sure you bring the lube.
IF SOMEONE WALKS BY, PLAY IT COOL
Whether you're having nighttime sex on the beach or doing it in broad daylight, there's a chance someone may walk by. If that happens, don't freak out. This is when the compact towel comes in handy, seriously.
If you notice someone approaching, cover yourself up with the compact towel, and act as casual as possible. For example, if you're giving your partner a blowjob, stop and rest your head on their stomach or thigh. If you're having penetrative sex on the beach, stop and cuddle.
USE THE OCEAN TO COOL OFF
You’ve just had sizzling hot sex at the beach, just like you planned. Well, since you’re already there, why don’t you take a dip into the ocean and cool off?
Make sure the water isn’t too rough before going in, and use your towel to dry yourself up. If it doesn’t seem safe to go into the water, don’t do it. Have a shower when you get home, with or without your partner.
Having sex on the beach can be an exhilarating and releasing experience; you just want to make sure it's done safely. As long as you follow these tips, your naughty sexcapade on the beach will go smoothly.
Find the right beach
Yeah, having sex on a popular public beach isn't the best idea whether it's day or night—you will get caught. Ideally, the more isolated your beach sex spot is, the better. So focus on finding a private beach for just the two of you. Of course, you can try it during the day, but we recommend doing it at night.
Get into sand-safe positions
Sadly, not all positions are made for beach sex; that's just the way it is. If you don't want sand in unwanted places, choose positions that keep your genitals as far away from the sand as possible.
These positions include doggy style, spooning positive, and cowgirl. Avoid the missionary position, but if it's a position you really want to do, make sure you bring a sand proof blanket with you.
Invest in foreplay
Yes, sex on a private and secluded beach is fun, but you know what's even better? Foreplay on a beach! Doesn't it have a good ring to it? But it's amazing. Before having penetrative sex, spend the time exploring each other's bodies with a sand proof blanket or some towels. Oral sex under a blanket or towel can be a lot of fun.
Sand in your genitals means stop having sex
This is an important one. If you go prepared, this really shouldn't happen. You have everything you need to avoid this situation. But, that said, it can still happen no matter how prepared you are.
If you happen to get sand in your genitals, don't continue what you're doing. Stop immediately and rinse yourself off in the water. You do not want to get an infection from having sex on the beach—that's not what's supposed to happen!
TIME TO SPICE THINGS UP
While we love the idea of having sex in public, it’s important you know, sex in public is punishable if caught. Having sex in public is fun, but not if you end up in actual handcuffs. That would be a little awkward if you ask us. So, do keep an eye out. If you’re eager to have sex in public, here are some places you should try out next.
MOVIE THEATERS
Now, a lot of people go in and out of movie theatres, so you want to make sure the area is body safe and clean. But if the area is clean and ready to go, then it’s time for you to enjoy the movie from a different perspective. Pick a weekday when it’s not so busy, and have fun in the back of the theatre with your partner.
If you’re not ready for full-on sex in a theatre, you can try the OhMiBod Esca2 massager. It is Bluetooth-enabled and can be controlled by your partner through the FeelConnect app.
PARKING LOT
Ooo, sex in a car—how fun! You don’t want to pick a deserted parking lot. To be honest, that’s a little creepy—gives off horror movie vibes. But a dim lit parking lot can give you just enough light to enjoy your partner, while not being fully exposed to the world. Make sure the doors of your parked car are locked and go wild.
MUSIC FESTIVAL
Everyone is in good spirits, the vibes are high and most of the people aren’t paying attention to what you’re doing. They’re all trying to get laid themselves while enjoying their favorite band. So, it’s kind of the perfect place for judgment-free public sex.
While the headlining band is playing, slip out of the crowd and find a hidden place to engage in sexual activity with your partner or someone you just met.
PUBLIC BATHROOMS
Whether it’s the bathroom at the mall or a bar bathroom, having sex in public bathrooms can be a lot of fun. Pick a bathroom stall that’s decent in size—not a single stall. As long as only one pair of feet can be seen from underneath (meaning one person is mounting the toilet), you’re good to go.
Pro tip: Make sure the stalls are clean and safe.
LIBRARY
The whole point of a library is to offer a quiet space for people to concentrate on reading or studying. But what about for having public sex? Slip away to the back of the library for some naughty fun.
Or, while studying with your partner, use one of your sex toys for women so your partner can control the speed, and vibrations of your vibrator. It’s kinky, but follows the rules of the library!
DARK ALLEYS
Now, not everyone is going to jump for joy at the idea of having sex in a dark alley. If you’re not comfortable having sex in public dark alleys, that’s perfectly fine. However, if you’re someone who’s interested in pushing the boundaries, a dark alley is certainly the spot to ramp up your sex life.
AT THE BEACH
Having sex on the beach is always viewed as sexy and enticing, but it is important to keep a few things in mind. Like coming prepared with the necessary items, watching out for sand and not getting caught!
People often assume having sex in public means having penetrative sex. However, sex in public is open to interpretation. Instead of penetrative sex, try incorporating interactive sex toys into public sex.
As mentioned earlier, sex toys for women such as the OhMiBod Esca2, are just ways to subtly engage in sexual activity in public. These interactive sex toys are remote controlled through Feelconnect, so you can be turned on or turn your partner without anyone even batting an eye.
CHANGING ROOMS
You and your partner are at the mall, and you pull them into the change room for some fun. The whole point of this is to be as quiet as possible or else you’ll definitely get caught. Or, better yet, try this instead.
Your partner stays outside of the changing room, using one of your interactive sex toys to turn you on while you try on clothing. This is a fun way to experiment with dom/sub activities in public.
Having sex in public can be an exhilarating experience and put the flame back into your relationship. But, you don’t want to get caught. While penetrative sex is fun, try incorporating sex toys into your public sex life for a more interesting experience.
THE POOL
You’ve got an entire pool all to yourself and you’re both feeling the situation. Some heavy kissing leads to some touching which leads to one of you reaching down the other’s bathing suit.
Maybe it’s a housesitting situation where you and your partner find yourselves in a situation you may never have the opportunity to see again. Or maybe it sprouts from an adventurous night of skinny dipping that leads to the underwater deed.
No matter what the set of circumstances, pool sex will become bad sex. First, let’s get the big nasty out of the way. Pools are incredibly disgusting places. Yes, they can be refreshing but they are also where people’s bodies go to soak.
Throw in some of nature’s nasties and you’re up for the possibility of infection. We won’t even talk about the chance that somebody may have literally dropped something off in the pool.
Second, the in and out of sex leads to water being thrust into your vagina. The water essentially is washing away your natural lubrication. This can potentially lead to an uncomfortable situation that will end poorly for all parties involved.
An alternative to sex in the pool would be sex near the pool. Many people that want to have pool sex are excited by the thought of having sex outdoors. You could find a lounger or comfortable spot and have at it!
If it’s the wetness that excites you, take your partner to the shower. Oral sex and mutual masturbation are incredibly sexy activities to share with your partner.
THE ELEVATOR
You’ve been away from each other and you just can’t take it any longer. Maybe you celebrated a little too much and your judgment isn’t as strong after a few drinks. You’ve got a long ride up to your floor so you start grinding which leads to someone reaching in and then pulling something out and now you’re full out having sex! This could go horribly wrong in a number of ways.
First, imagine getting it on and the doors open to reveal your neighbors' shocked faces. If you just signed a lease or you happen to own a place, get ready for some very awkward silences.
Second, many elevators these days have security cameras that can and will see every little thing. If you thought you knew your doorman before, just wait until after he’s seen you and your partner getting it on.
Our suggestion to love in an elevator? Use that time to tease each other. Back into your lover, reach into their pants and let them know you’re excited. Let them explore without putting on too much of a show. By the time you reach your floor, you’ll be speed walking to your door.
OFFICE SEX
Office romances can be so much fun, and we recommend them highly. Office sex, on the other hand, can lead to all kinds of bad! This is yet again one of those situations made famous on television and the silver screen.
An arm sliding papers off the desktop so that he can lift her up and set her down on the desk to start ravaging her body. Maybe it’s an office door being closed and blinds suspiciously being shuttered. A few things instantly come to mind as to why this spells doom for both you and your partner.
First, most workplaces are filthy messes. Desktops are eaten on, sneezed upon, and rarely cleaned properly. If you are planning to have sex on your desk be aware that a rogue staple may find its way to a very unfortunate place!
Second, even if you have a private office those walls are not meant to keep much private. Even with the blinds shut and the door closed, the sounds of lovemaking are going to be heard by everyone!
To avoid an unfortunate conversation with Karen in HR, try keeping your desires at bay until you are truly alone. Take a quick moment to type up a sexy message or run to the bathroom to send your lover a picture for their eyes only. If you truly cannot keep your hands off of each other, clear your schedules for the afternoon and take your passions to someplace private.
Admittedly we’ve found ourselves on the wrong end of a few of these scenarios. Our passions got the best of us and we ended up in situations that were either embarrassing or painful.
Are we heroes for surviving these sexual no-no’s and forging ahead? Absolutely not. Do we feel good about bringing some common sense to the sexual bucket list of so many of you? Not at all.
We hope that by reading this you will come to understand that there are going to be sexual experiences that have been grossly overblown in popular culture. There are also going to be experiences you should avoid at all costs.
Ultimately though, you’re going to follow your desires and passions. Just remember to be Bono’s hero. Survive doing it wrong, learn from your mistakes and know that you’ll recover in time to have incredible sex!
WRITTEN BY
Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.
